Re-Write Naija [UNVEILED]

Bolu Akindele


​Re-Write Naija is an October 1 project created to

1. Motivate the youth towards a better perception of the country

2. Render hope to the several hopeless hearts about the state of the Nation

3. Validate the many dreams aimed towards the better good of this nation.


It would seem that in a season like this, there seems to be so much tension and frustration Nigerian is complain at the many problems facing us as a nation but we believe that complaining about a problem has never solved it.

Steve Keating quoted “I’ve never seen a problem that was solved by only complaining about it.

Our goal is to work at transforming the mind-sets of as many young people as we can in raising the new breed of Nigerians that would work effortlessly at seeing a better nation.


To achieve this, we have a combination of young seasoned and skilled…

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The K.I.T Series- Your Academics.

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As I heard the sound of my alarm I knew it was morning already but it wasn’t a morning I was eager to get out of bed. Guess what day of the week it was… Monday! And alas! Reality dawned on me, I was not through with my mathematics assignment. I rushed out of bed to look for my notebook and having checked my disorganized reading table and couldn’t find it I tried to remember where and when I saw it last. And as if my morning couldn’t get any worse, I remembered that I left it in my mum’s shop and she won’t be going to her shop till 9:00am and I was expected to get to school before 7:40am. I concluded like every other Monday I had experienced in my life that this was going to be my worst day of the week.
Does the above scenario describe you on one of your school days? Do you dread going to school? Do you dread studying and writing examinations’? Do you feel like you’ve been putting your best into your academics but you have nothing to show for it? Or do you feel that you can stretch yourself a little bit more and get your desired result? If your answer to at least one of these questions is a YES then, this article is for you.
I’ve realized in the little years I’ve spent on earth that nothing good comes by mistake; so also is success. It comes with a price tag attached to it. I’ll be sharing with you in this article things that will help you to be successful academically.

1. Check your motive: why are you in school and why do you want to succeed academically? Is it because your parents told you that for you to succeed in life you have to be educated? Is it so that you can pass your test and exams and then get a certificate? Or is it so that you can proof a point to someone, or so that you can be a blessing to others? Anything you do with an ulterior motive will not yield a very good result. You are in school so that you can gain knowledge about things that you might not necessarily learn outside the academic system of your school. You are not in school so that you can pass your tests and exams alone but so that you can learn things that will help you become the best you can be. That is why cramming to pass exam isn’t a good thing to do because after the exam you can’t really remember what you read and wrote down and that automatically means that you haven’t gained the knowledge about what you are tested on.
So check your motive.

2. Success is a cumulative effect: Anything worth doing at all is worth doing well. If you’ve discovered why you are in school then, you must give it your best so that you can be the best you can be. Little things count. Please take note of the following:
a. Attend your classes and really be there: There is a huge difference between you attending a class and you being in the class. You can be sitted in a class and your mind isn’t in the class. Learning is a mind game. So that you can get the best from the lesson you are being taught you have to discipline yourself ( so that you can keep your mind from wandering.) You can do this by maintaining eye contact with your teacher, by being genuinely interested in what your teacher is teaching, by maintaining a good sitting position and by jotting down the points your teacher makes in class. Also try as much as possible not to be disturbed by your friends. Let them know that you don’t talk when a lesson is going on. Learn to ask your teachers questions when you don’t understand what you are being taught, this leads me to my next point.
b. Be your teachers’ friends: When I was in High School I had a very good relationship with my teachers and it helped me a lot to the extent that I was able to learn good things from them that wasn’t even part of what they taught in class. Learn to treat your teachers with respect. They are trying to impact knowledge into you so one thing you can do for them is to treat them well. You may say that they are working for their salary but I want you to know that any teacher that is teaching just because of the salary he or she will get at the end of the month won’t give you their best. I had teachers that were passionate about their profession and most especially love their students.
Don’t listen to or say derogatory comments about your teachers. Remember nobody is perfect and before your teacher becomes your teacher he or she is first a human being with his own faults and challenges. Try as much as possible to appreciate your teacher’s effort by sincerely complimenting him or her and giving him or her gift when you can no matter how small.
Learning becomes more fun for you if you love and respect your teachers. It will give you access to approach them and ask them questions when you don’t understand what you are being taught. You can’t love and respect a person and that person won’t treat you well. I’ve discovered most student don’t hate a course because it is difficult they hate the course because they hate their teachers. Begin to genuinely love your teacher and with that you will begin to love and pass the subject that that  teacher takes you.
c. Endeavour to have neat and complete note: If your note isn’t complete I wonder what you will read for tests and exams. Writing your notes yourself helps you to understand it better and faster when you are reading it. So please make it an habit to have a neat and complete notes.
d. Don’t joke with your assignments and tests: I believe that assignments is one of the easiest way to get good marks. The 5 marks or 10 marks you will get by doing your assignment can take you from having  an “F” in a course to a “E” or from having a “B” to having an “A.”
Little things can make a huge difference. Never go to write a test without preparing for it. Leave no stone unturned. When you cover everything on your course outline your level of confidence as regards the exam increases. It is only what you know that the Holy Spirit will bring to your remembrance. Play your part and God will pay His.
e. Have a personal study timetable and be consistent in using it: Anthony Robbins said”It’s not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives. It’s what we do consistently.”   Your reading timetable should contain the subjects you are offering and the number of hours and days you will be reading them in a week. You should spend more time on voluminous and difficult subjects. Reading ahead of time before tests and exams helps you to be more calm when you are preparing for them compared to someone who is just reading his or her note for the first time. It’s more like you are revising. It also gives you the privilege to complete reading your note twice or thrice before exams.
f. Practice past questions and take note of what each of your teachers expect of you:  Past questions give you an insight to likely questions that can come out on each topic you are being taught and it helps you to be better prepared for them. You can get past questions from your seniors in school and from your school library if your school makes it available in their library. You can also check online for practice questions on the topic you are.
Some teachers give you hints when they are teaching in class on the main points in the topic you are being taught and they sometimes tell you how they expect you to answer their questions. That is why you have to pay attention in class.
Above all give your best to God in your academics knowing fully well that if you excel He gets the glory and otherwise you will praise Him all the same. See giving your best to your academics as a means of saying thank you to your parents for sending you to school because there are some children out there that wish they have the opportunity you have but they don’t. Make good use of this opportunity don’t throw it away.
I want you to also know that failure is not the end of the world. Whenever you experience failure make sure you learn from the mistake you made that caused you to fail. Also remain positive. Remember exam result doesn’t define you, God does. Make sure you ask Him for help. I’ve seen people that are very diligent academically but yet fail because they tried doing it without God. In all your ways acknowledge God and He will direct your path. He won’t allow you waste your effort. Till I write to you again on “K.I.T- your social life,” keep being the best you can be  academically. I love you but not as much as Christ does!

The K.I.T Series.

 

The K.I.T Series-your spiritual life(Prayer).

People have made the word prayer complicated but it isn’t. Prayer is simply talking to God and listening to his reply. It is also asking and receiving from God. Boyd defined prayer as”a conscious response to what God is already doing in your life.” “Prayer is fighting, spirit-fighting. That is to say, the Apostle Paul says we are in the thick of fight. There is a war on. How shall we best fight? First get into good shape to pray, and then with all your praying strength and skill, pray. This is the sort of action that turns the enemy’s flank, and reveals his heels. He simply cannot stand before persistent knee-work.”-Herald Newsletter
Prayer is the place of growth in practically every domain of the spiritual life. The more a person prays the more he will know the Lord and, as he continues to pray, the more he will be transformed to be like the Lord to whom he is praying. Often times people have asked the following questions about prayer and  we will be considering them one after the other.
1. Why should I pray?
You are expected to pray because it is one of the commandments of the Master (Jesus) to us as his followers “Men ought to pray always and not to faint.” Until you start praying you won’t see the changes you want to see. You are also expected to pray because the Devil isn’t joking with any man and he has a mission which he is all out to achieve because he knows that his time is short(John 10:10-the thief comes not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy…, Eph 6:12- for we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.)

2. How should I pray?
There is no particular way in which you should pray but I think the Master himself gave us an example in Mathew 6:9-13 of how our prayer should look like. We are to pray to the Father in the name of the Son(Jesus Christ) through the enablement of the Holy Ghost. Charles H.Spurgeon also answered this question by saying that “Ask for what you need now and, as a rule, keep to present needs; ask for your daily bread-what you want now-ask that. Ask for it plainly, as before God, who does not regard your fine expressions and to whom your eloquence and oratory will be less than nothing and vanity. You are before the Lord; let your words be few, but let your heart be fervent.”

3. Where can I pray?
You can pray anywhere at anytime because our God is the omnipotent, omniscience and omnipresent God. He is everywhere at everytime and he doesn’t sleep nor slumber. But also be careful not to disturb those around you with your prayers. So, that is   why it is advisable to go to a place where you can be alone and free to express yourself to your Father and not be bothered by how others feel or think. I think that is why the Bible says in Mathew 6:6 ” But you, when you pray, enter into your closet, and when you have shut your door, pray to your Father which is in secret; and your Father who sees in secret shall reward you openly.”

4. When should I stop praying?
You aren’t expected to stop praying. That is why we have the baptism of the Holy Ghost so we can pray in the Holy Ghost always( 1 Thes 5:17). You can stop praying a particular prayer point when you’ve gotten an answer from God. So, I will say P.U.S.H- Pray until something happens. “The winning quality in prayer is PERSISTENCE. The final test is here. This is the last ditch. Many who fight well up to this point lose their grip here, and so lose all. Many who are well equipped for prayer fail here, and  doubtlessly fail because they have not rightly  understood. With clear, ringing tones the Master’s voice sounds in our hearts again today “always to pray, and not to faint.”- Herald Newsletter.

Even as I have tried to answer the questions people ask about prayer I will like you to take note of the following:
a. The prayer of a sinner is an abomination to God. For  God to answer your prayer you must make your ways right with him. That is, you must ask him to forgive you of your sins and leave a life that will please him. And remember that the fervent prayer of the righteous avails much.

b.Have faith that God will answer your prayer(James 1:6-7). Prayer is a faith business. In fact, the christian race is a faith race. Those that come to God must know that he is and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.

c. If you are prayer less you are an easy pray to the devil.” If we lose the battle in prayer, we have lost the battle completely.”- Luster Sumrall. E.M Bounds said “Prayer less men have stood in the way of God fulfilling His word and doing His will on earth. They tie the divine hands and interfere with God in His gracious designs. As praying men are a help to God, so prayer less men are a hindrance to Him.” When you are prayer less you are hindering God from doing what him alone can do in your life and generation.

let’s quickly take a look at the three stages of prayer.
* The stage of ASKING. This is the stage where you are knocking persistently on Heaven’s gate for God to intervene in your situation.
*The stage of BELIEVING that what is asked for has been received. You know that you’ve received what you’ve asked for deep within your spirit even though you haven’t seen it’s physical manifestation yet.
*The stage of SEEING what has been received. God gives you what you ask him for in the spirit form first which is invisible and you have to receive it in that form by faith till it becomes visible. At this stage you stop asking and you being to THANK God for what you’ve received from him by faith.
In conclusion, one sure way of bearing spiritual fruit is by being prayerful(John 15:2). It is in the place of prayer that you travail and give birth to the will of God in your life and generation. Prayer takes great self-discipline and denial but the reward is greater than the price. Be a Lady of prayer. You can start by giving fifteen minutes of your time daily to God in prayer. Make sure you are consistent with it and when you feel like you can handle more than fifteen minutes you can increase the time. Remember that ANYBODY CAN PRAY provided their ways are right with God. I’ll love to say (in the Master’s voice) “men ought to pray and not to faint.” Till I write to you again on “The K.I.T Series- your academics” keep travailing in the place of prayer. I love you but not as much as Christ does.

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The K.I.T Series.

K.I. T- your spiritual life.

A   lot of people ask questions like “How am I supposed to trust and believe God when I can’t see Him?” I would answer this question by saying that the same way you believe that you have a brain without you seeing it physically before or the same way you believe that you are a girl and there is nothing any medical doctor can tell you to make you stop believing; that is the same way you are supposed to believe that God exists. Have you ever taken time to look around you to see the things this God created that proves His existence? Things like the sun, flowers and even you! If not, why not look around you and pay special attention to the way God is revealing Himself to you. Jesus said that “I am the way, the truth and the life and no one gets to the Father except through me.” You can’t believe that God exists without you believing in Jesus because no one gets to the Father except through Him. John 3:16 says “God so loved the world that He gave His one and only son, that whosoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.”
Have you ever seen any man that a good, kind and wealthy king will give a gift freely and will reject it? Most likely not. So what is stopping you from receiving the gift of the King of Kings? John 1:12 says “To all who did receive Him, to those who believed in His name, He gave the right to become children of God.” UNTIL YOU RECEIVE JESUS AS YOUR LORD AND YOUR SAVIOUR, YOU WON’T ENJOY LIFE NEITHER WILL YOU BE ABLE TO LIVE A BALANCED LIFE because Jesus said in John 10:10 “The thief comes only to steal, kill and destroy. I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance (to the full, till it overflows.)” All you need to do to become a child of God is to receive Jesus as your Lord and Saviour. You might be thinking that He can’t save you because of the sins you’ve committed or because of your terrible past but I want to tell you that He can. He said in Isaiah 1:18 “Come now, let us reason together, says the LORD: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool. ” All you need to do is to confess your sins to Him and ask Him to forgive you of them. Tell Him that you believe that He died for you and that you accept Him as your Lord and Saviour. And that is it, like magic you are already part of God’s children. I will advice that if you have just taken that prayer, you should find a Bible-believing Church around you to join, so you will find people that love Jesus like you do and they will help you to grow in your faith.
Now, to those of us that are already children of God and wondering how we can grow spiritually or are just thinking how we can get more of God. The answer to your question is “seek God”. His word says that “I am a rewarder of those that diligently seek me.” He also said that I have not told the sons of Jacob to seek me  in vain.” He also said that “if you seek me with all your heart, mind and soul, you will find me.” Until you start seeking God you will not find Him.
Mathew 7:7 says “Ask, and it shall be given you: Seek, and you shall find; Knock, and it shall be opened unto you.” When you are seeking for something, you don’t care about any other thing at that particular time except for what you are seeking. To seek God is to spend quality time with God. Time is life and God wants you to spend your life on him. God wants the first portion of everything you have not just your money alone but also your time. The Psalmist said that “early will I seek you o God.” (paraphrased).
Joyce Meyer said in one of her sermons, “Getting full of God first before getting full of any other thing helps you to be better prepared for the day” (paraphrased). All that matters to God is that you let Him know that He has first place in your life and the best way to show Him that is to spend quality time with Him. Psalm 91:1 says “He who dwells in the secret place of the Most High shall remain stable and fixed under the shadow of the Almighty (whose power no foe can withstand). UNTIL YOU LEARN TO SPEND TIME WITH GOD YOU WILL BE AT THE MERCY OF THE DEVIL. In 1 Samuel 19:1-2 David had been running away from Saul who wanted to kill him and in the second verse Jonathan told him to “dwell in a secret place, and hide himself.” Jonathan didn’t know that David didn’t need any physical secret place because he was already dwelling in the secret place of God and he needed not be afraid of what Saul could do to him. Are you in the secret place of God? Only a man that spends time with God can dwell in His secret place.
I believe that as a child of God you have just one life; which is your spiritual life. What happens to your spiritual life determines what happens to other aspects of your life because the spiritual controls the physical.  You need to get to the point in your life where God becomes the center of your life and every other thing revolves around Him.  When you do so, it becomes easy for you to balance your life. The Bible says in John 15:5 “I am the Vine, you are the branches; whosoever lives in me and I in him bears much (abundant) fruit. However, apart from Me (cut off from vital union with Me) you can do nothing.” Be committed to God and He will be committed to you. We will be considering three things that will help you to grow spiritually; your worship life, your word life and your prayer life

  1. YOUR WORSHIP LIFE: “Worship is to quicken your conscience by the holiness of God, to purge your imagination by the beauty of God, to open your heart to the love of God, and to devote your will to the purpose of God.”- Temple.
    “Worship is trying to please God because you love Him.”- Rick Joyner
    I want you to please take a few minutes to meditate on those definitions of worship and I pray that the Holy Spirit will interpret them to you Himself.
    Worship is not something you do when you enter into a Church on Sunday. It should be something that should be your lifestyle. Worship ushers you into the presence of God. The Bible says in Psalm 22:3 “But you are holy, you that inhabit the praises of Israel.” Worship helps you to constantly dwell in the presence of God and in the presence of God there is fullness of joy. Romans 12:1 says “I beseech you therefore brethren, by the mercies of God that you present your bodies holy and acceptable to God which is your reasonable act of worship.” Living your life for God is your worship to Him. When you worship God, He reveals His person to you.
    One thing king David knew how to do is to worship God and that is why God established his throne forever. How often do you worship God? Decide today to be a worshipper not just in words but also in deeds.
    2. YOUR WORD LIFE: God’s word to us is His love letter to us. How much time do you spend studying and meditating on the word of God? The same way you read the letter a loved one writes to you over and over again is the same way you are expected to spend time studying the word of God. The Psalmist said  “Your word have I hid in my heart that I may not sin against you.” It is easy to sin against God if you don’t know His word. One best way to know God the more and understand Him the more is by spending time studying His word. Your faith in God can’t grow if you don’t study His word.
    Rick Joyner said ” True faith has nothing to fear from examination; it has everything to gain. If you truly examine Jesus (through his word), not just intellectual concepts, the more closely you look at Him, the more your heart will be stirred to believe. Even Napoleon, after reading the Gospel of John, stated that if Jesus was not the Son of God, then the person who wrote that gospel was! He realized that the story he was reading was far beyond any human invention. Those who truly examine Him always find the same thing. Those who don’t examine Him will be much more subject to future doubts and therefore much more prone to fall away from the truth (Jesus Christ).
    God’s word gives you direction and keeps you from making mistakes in life. The psalmist said “Your word O God is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path.” It isn’t enough for you to read the Bible, do you have the Bible in your life?
    Zacharias Tanee Fomum said “Any command or example of the Bible that you have obeyed consistently until it has become a part of your life is the Bible in your life.  The only Bible you will take with you when you leave this world will be the Bible in your life, and that will affect your eternal rank significantly.”Below are the things I think you can do that will help your word life:
    – Have a specific time that you spend studying the word of God and be consistent with it.
    – Have a favourite place in your house that you can go to to study God’s word.
    – Take away all distractions most especially your phone when studying the word of God. You can’t listen to God and man at the same time.
    – You can start by studying part of the Bible that you know will help your present state in life. Take for example, if you need wisdom “Proverbs” is a good book of the Bible to study. Studying areas that you need in your life will keep you from getting bored and also help you look forward to the time you spend with God. The Gospel of Jesus Christ (Mathew, Mark, Luke and John) are also great books of the Bible to read.
    – Endeavour to have a book where you can write down the things God is teaching you during your time of studying His word. It helps you not to forget them and also to keep track of your knowledge of the word of God.
    – Try to study at least three chapters of the Bible a day. If you read three chapters a day, you will be able to read the Bible through in a year.
    -Try to memorize one verse of the Bible a week. That means that by the end of the year you would have memorized fifty verses.
    – If you find it difficult to understand the version of the Bible you are using, you can get a simpler version just to aid your understanding of God’s word. You can also get a concordance or a Bible search app that can help you to search for verses of the Bible you might be looking for and also help you to understand words of the Bible you might not really understand.
    – Also try to invest your money in buying good Christian books both fiction and non-fiction. It helps you to gain from the knowledge these authors have about God. But be careful to check if the things that they write are in accordance with the Bible because the Bible is our standard.
    – Lastly, anytime you want to read the scripture,  tell God to open His word to you and give you a deeper understanding of His word. And peradventure you read any part of the Bible and you do not understand it, you can ask your Pastor or any other believer that you feel has a better understanding of the scripture than you do.
    God’s word to some people is in Revelations 3:15-16 which says “I know your works, that you are neither cold nor hot: I would rather prefer that you are cold or hot. So then because you are lukewarm, neither cold nor hot, I will spit you out of my mouth.”
    Nothing of value comes without a price. Your spiritual growth comes with a price tag attached to it. You need to start paying the price of seeking God and don’t be satisfied with where you are because there are still depths in God you’ve not gotten to yet. I pray that as you begin to pay the price of seeking God diligently, you will find God and all that is in him.
    I will love to end by saying that EVERYTHING YOU NEED OR WILL EVER NEED IS IN THE PRESENCE OF GOD.  The next time I will be writing to you, I will be writing on “K.I.T- your spiritual life (Prayer).” Till then, keep seeking God.
    I love you but not as much as Christ does.

The K. I.T Series.

K .I.T-Your physical life(health).
Have you ever felt like you need to make changes that will help you live a better,  healthy life? Have you ever felt like you need to gain more weight or that you need to lose weight? You are not alone. We all want to live a healthy life but even as much as you want to make some changes concerning your health, I want you to know that you can’t change everything most especially your body figure or physique. All you need to do is to make the right choices so you can see the positive changes that you want to see and also to accept what you can’t change even as the common saying “when the desirable isn’t available you make the available desirable.”
Here are things I think you can do to improve your health:
1.Eat healthy: You can be tempted     to gobble every junk food you come in contact with but no matter how colourful or tasty it might be, it does more harm to your health than good. Instead of eating junk everytime, try to cut down on the quantity of junk you eat everyday and every week. You might decide to be eating junk once a week as a reward for doing that positive thing you had found difficult to do.
Always endeavour to eat food in their natural state than in their processed state and also in their right proportions (that is their nutrients).
Never skip your meals, most especially your breakfast.  Eating breakfast helps your body to gain back the energy you lost during sleep and there is every probability that if you skip your breakfast you tend to eat more than you ought to during the day because you won’t have the amount of energy you ought to have.
Try as much as possible to eat balanced diet. Eating balanced diet isn’t as expensive as most people think. All you need to do is to learn different meals that you can cook that will contain the different nutrients you need. Remember, “you are what you eat.”

2. Water is your friend: Water has a very high percentage in a human body. Some scientists believe that it is about 50-65% in an adult human body. You aren’t expected to be dehydrated because water performs a lot of functions in your body. Example:
– It serves as a medium for excretion.
– It serves as a means of controlling body heat.
– It serves as a transport medium for other nutrients gotten from food.
– it serves as a lubricant for joints.
– It serves as a shock absorber. Etc
Why will you want to deprive your body of the various functions water can perform for you? You are expected to take about eight glasses of water per day. Whenever you feel tempted to take juice or any other drink other than water try to remind yourself of the functions that water performs for your body.

3. Exercise: I   know this is like the most difficult thing for people to do or even be consistent in doing but for you that can change. Exercise shouldn’t be something you dread instead it should be something you always look forward to doing.  Apart from the fact that exercise helps you to loose weight or to keep fit, to prevent stress and depression it has a lot of functions it performs for your body like helping you to boost your immune system and helping you to prevent diseases like cardiovascular disease, type 2 diabetes and obesity. Exercise doesn’t necessarily have to be something difficult. It can be as simple as skipping, swimming, dancing, jogging, etc. You can pick something that works best for you and will still give you the result you want. I will advice that if you have difficulty been consistent with your exercise you can tell some of your girlfriends to join you and you can also change the routine of your exercise from time-to-time. This will boost your morale and help you to be accountable while the different routines will keep you from been bored of doing the same thing over and over again.

4. Know when you need a break: We live in a fast world. A world where everybody wants to get everything done as fast as possible and if care is not taken, you can lose yourself in such a world. That is why you need to know when you’ve had enough. You have to know when you need to work and when you need to rest. As teenagers, we have a lot of things calling for our attention and most of the times we end up chatting late into the night and depriving our body from the normal hours of sleep we ought to get. If you don’t sleep well, you can wake up depressed the next day even with head ache, and gradually this tells on your health. Endeavour to get at least eight hours of sleep every night. It will be better if you have a bed time and stick to it. If you do so, with time, your body will get used to it and you won’t find it difficult to fall asleep.
Also try to put your phone and other devices that might prevent you from sleeping at your regular bedtime on ‘silent mode’ and also make the atmosphere of your room comfortable enough so that it might help you to fall asleep quickly.  Always remember that you are a princess and you need your princess-rest” Early to bed, early to rise, makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise.”

5. Watch your thoughts:What you think about has a lot of effect on how you feel which in turn affects your health. Learn to think positively. Your thought can either cause you to be depressed and sick and it can also help you to enjoy your health and life. No wonder King Solomon said in Proverbs 4:23 that you should” guard your heart with all diligence for out of it comes the issues of life.” Instead of grumbling about the things you don’t have, make a conscious effort to thank God for the things you have. You won’t always have all you want in life but you can always trust in God’s word because Christ has overcome the world (John 16:33). You can meditate on John 15: 27 and Psalm 34: 18. Also I will say to you like a dear sister said to me recently when I was battling depression that you should “Always remember that you have the mind of Christ and the mind is the seat of depression and joy. The mind of  Christ emanates joy all the time and that is what you have. So when next you are beginning to think about what you shouldn’t be thinking about, remember that you have the mind of Christ and Christ thinks positively.

6. Have a regular medical check-up: A lot of people have been able to overcome chronic health issues like cancer that could have claimed their lives if not for God and also because they detected the disease early when something could still be done. Don’t be ignorant of what is happening in your body. If you notice any body change that is alarming, pray about it and also visit the hospital. You can never tell, that might save your life.

Until I write to you on another aspect of this series “K.I.T- your Spiritual life.” Keep Keeping your life together.
I love you but not as much as Christ does.

 

UNFAILING LOVE

I may not be sure of a lot of things but I’m sure of your love.
when things fade away
Your love will still remain
when I sway
Your love makes me stay.

When it seems like everything is closing up on me
Your love becomes my shield.
When I’m choked by the issues of life
Your love provides the water of life.

When I’m going through my darkest days
Your love brightens my heart.
When I’m tired of treading the narrow path your love keeps me going; giving me clarity of mind.
When I’m tired of life
Your love helps me to look back that I may be able to move forward.

Your love is the best thing I’ve ever known
And I won’t dare trade it for the unknown
Loving on you is something I will forever do
For you  first loved on me.
I’m grateful for your love JESUS

The Kit Series.

I know that by now you will be trying to figure out what K.I.T. means. Let me save you the stress. K.I.T. is an acronym for “Keeping It Together.” In this series, I will be writing about how you can live a balanced life. How you can keep your physical life (appearance and health), your spiritual life, your academics, your financial life and your social life together. I’m tired of seeing girls live an unbalanced life. I’m tired of seeing girls with pretty faces on empty heads or girls that are academically sound without knowing any other thing apart from their books and that is why I’m writing on K.I.T. I believe you will learn a lot from this series that is why I want you to please follow this series and tell your girlfriends about it.

K.I.T-your physical life(appearance):
Have you ever felt like being a girl is stressful most especially when you think about dressing or something that affects your appearance like combining colours together. Your appearance really matters because that is what everybody sees at first before getting to really meet the real you. That is why you don’t want to get it wrong even as at that you don’t need to fret. I’m here to help you. Here are tips that will help you have  a good lasting impression on everybody you meet.

1. Clean up: I remember one of my female family friends once told me when I was thirteen that girls clean up. Little things makes a lot of difference. Learn to follow rules of personal hygiene e.g:
*Take your bath everyday.
*Brush your teeth twice daily.
*Trim your nails or file them.
*Shave the hair of your public area e.g armpit.
*Wash your cloths and under ware after wearing them.
*Don’t wear wrinkled clothes. Apart from the fact that when you iron your cloth it makes you look more tidy, it increases the durability of your cloth.
*Use deodorant and perfumes. It helps you smell nice most especially after perspiring.
*Wash your hair regularly.
*Don’t keep a particular style of hair for too long. When you notice that your hair is getting rough lose it, wash it and make another one.
* Make styles that fit your face shape. If you aren’t sure ask a trusted hair dresser.These things might seem minute or not important but they go along way to improve your appearance and boost your self confidence.

2. Define your style: Your personality influences your kind of style. Wear only things that will best represent you. Don’t wear a cloth because it is in vogue wear it because It represents who you are and you are comfortable in it.  Wear something that brings out your true self. You are the best of your kind. Don’t let people decide what the best version of you looks like. You define You.

3. Figure out your body type: Your body type is a cumulative product of your skeletal structure and the quantity and distribution of muscle and fat in your body. Women have four main body types. They are:
a. Apple body type:The weight of this body type accumulates above the hips, which are narrow. The back, ribs and shoulders are broad and if this is your body type you may feel wider than other body types. Your best body feature is your legs.
b. Rectangular body type: the waist measurement is less than nine inches smaller than hips and bust measurement.  Body fat is distributed predominantly in the abdomen, buttocks,chest and face. This overall fat distribution creates the typical ruler (straight) shape. The best body feature of this body type is the slender legs and arms.
c. Pear body type: The lower body is wider than the upper body. The best feature of this body type is the shoulders and flat stomach.
d. Hour glass body type: The shoulders and hips are similar in proportion and set off by a tiny waist. The best feature of this body type is the curves.
Identifying your body type will help you to know what will work for you and what won’t.

4.Figure out what works best for your body type:
a.  Apple body type:
* Go for a V-neck top to create the illusion of a longer torso.
* Wear dresses with an A-line or empire hem. It helps you to create a waist line.
*Do wear belts at the smallest part of your waist. Avoid belts and dresses that pinch at the waist.
*Do conceal tummy bulge by wearing empire tops and dresses.
*Do wear a bra that offers good lift and support.

b. Rectangular body type:
* Wear long jackets to create a lean look.
* Wear tops with collars,ruffles and details to flatter your chest.
* Have fun with colourful skirts and pants feel free to experiment.
* Wear a good bra that will make the most of what you have.

c. Pear body type:
* Try a-line skirts that camouflage wider hips.
* keep hems of skirts and dresses wide to balance the hips.
* Experiment with light- coloured tops and dark-coloured bottoms contrast.
* Look for boat neck tops, square and cowl necklines.
* Try styles with ruffles on top.
* Wear jackets that yhits right above the waist.
* Do go for pointy-toed shoes to elongate your legs.

d. Hour glass body type:
* Wear wrap dresses or A-line cut dresses.
* Wear well fitted dresses.
* Go for high- waisted skirts to show off your hips.
* Do pick thin, light waisted styles and fabrics.
* wear dresses that have a fitted top and hug your waist to avoid adding bulk.
* Wear V-necks or sweetheart necklines to slim down the bust.
* Accessorize with belts so that the naturally smaller waist is showcased.

5. Wear colours that complement your skin tone. Also learn about colours so you can know what colour will match with what colour.

6. Accessorize with watches, sunglasses, ties, necklaces etc but don’t over do it.  Remember less is much.

7. Dress for the occasion.  Wear only cloth that are appropriate for where you are going to.

8. Don’t neglect your shoes too.  They can either make or mar your dressing.

9.  Ensure that you have a good standing, sitting and walking posture. It makes you look more attractive. When sitting cross your legs at the knee not at the ankle.

10. Have a good charisma. Carry yourself like the princess you are. See the world as your run-way and walk in it with your head up.

11. Use positive body language when interacting with people e.g make eye contact, smile, etc but don’t over do it.

12. When speaking to people learn to speak audibly enough for everyone to hear what you are saying but avoid shouting. Believe that people need to hear what you have to say.

13. Have a good self-confidence. Know who you are and keep being you. People will be more attracted to you if you are comfortable in your own skin.
There you have it, thirteen tips that will help you improve your appearance. The next time I will be writing to you, I will be writing on K.I.T. -your physical life (health).

Until then, continue to keep your life together.

I love you.

Reference: http://www.sheknows.com and wikihow.com

BECOMING YOUR MUM’S BEST FRIEND

My mum is 50 years old now and I can tell you that spending 18 years out of the 50 with her haven’t been easy. We’ve had our ups and downs. There had been times I wished she wasn’t my mum. There are words she had said to me that had hurt me terribly and I believe that goes for me, to her also. But even in all these things I’ve come to realize that she did all in love.
Her nagging attitude has it’s own ‘benefit’. I’ve longed to be my mum’s best friend; someone I can tell anything even the so called private things, someone that I can trust to be my support system without criticizing me. I’ve not gotten there yet but I’m willing to build a friendship with her. I believe every girl’s best friend should be her mum. She should be confident to tell her anything and not feel like it will be used against her. We have a lot of good things we can learn from our mums because they’ve been where we are now and where we will be. Friends will come and go but we are stuck with our mums at least till they die so the earlier we start loving them and building a love relationship with them the better.
So let’s get started!

1. Understand your mum’s temperament (personality):temperament can be defined as the emotional part of someone’s character, especially how likely they are to be happy, angry etc.  Understanding your mum’s personality will help you relate with her better and you will have less reason to get into a fight with her. It will also help you to know what she likes and what she doesn’t like. Her temperament affects how she behaves. So when you know why she behaves the way she does you will be able to sympathize with her. We have four types of temperament. I will advice you read the book titled, “why you act the way you do”- Tim Lahaye to have a better understanding of your temperament and your mum’s.

2. Understand your mum’s love language: Love language simply means the way in which a person wants or will appreciate love to be expressed to him or her. According to Gary D. Chapman there are five love language. The success of your relationship with anyone depends on whether you are able to express love in the way it will be appreciated by that person. The love languages are: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service and Physical Touch.
Consider each of the love languages and pick the one you think is your mum’s love language. You can directly ask her what her love language is if you aren’t sure what it is. You can also experiment with each and everyone of them and see which one she responds to positively the most. You can also notice how she expresses love to you. Most people express love to others the way they want it to be expressed to them. When you discover what her love language is, make sure you use it very often in expressing love to her and your relationship with her will be better for it.

3. Never talk back at her:  I know it might be hard because most times when we get into a fight, argument or heated discussion with our mums we just want to express our mind or say something to defend ourselves but please learn not to do so. It doesn’t yield the result we want to see it just makes it worse. Just do everything you can at that moment to keep yourself from talking back at her then later when she has clamed down you can now go and pour out your mind to her but do it with wisdom.

4. Talk well of her: Don’t go about telling your friends or people how bad or wicked your mum is because even when you’ve come to terms with her, the people you’ve talked bad about her to will only see her in that negative light ( even if she has changed) and will not respect her any longer. I know of a lady who talked bad about her parents to her spouse and today her spouse doesn’t respect her parents because she has given him a reason not ot. Make the right choice to preserve your mum’s reputation and you won’t regret it.

5. Obey her immediately: I know it might be difficult for you to drop what you are doing to respond to her one thousand and more calls but please do. Don’t obey her at your own convenient time but IMMEDIATELY. It will reduce the rate at which she complains about you. Even the Bible says you should obey your parents that you may live long in the earth (Ephesians 6:1-3) so even if you don’t want to obey her, obey so that you can live long.

6.Love her and Pray for her: The best thing you can do to yield the result you want to see in your relationship with your mum is to love her even as you pray for her. I was bitter against my mum for years until I learned to start praying for her. When you pray for her you release any hurt you’ve had in your relationship with her and you give God the chance to heal you emotionally, help you love her, show mercy unto her and restore your relationship with her. I’ve once read in a Francine Rivers book that “Prayer gives your love wings” so if you’ve tried everything you know to make your relationship with your mum better but you aren’t getting the result you want, try prayer and love.
Love never fails!

SEXUAL HARASSMENT

Sexual harassment is not a word that is easy to define but it is a word whose meaning is yet simple even though people shy away from explaining what it really means. I will give four scenarios that will help you understand what it means.

Scenario 1:  A girl of about fifteen years old was on a bike going to school and during the ride with the bike man she noticed the bike man was moving back every now and then and encroaching on the space that should be between her and the bike man. And instead of her to tell the man politely that he was encroaching on her space, she didn’t say a word. All she did was to put her school bag between her and the bike man and she continued to push the man forward till she got down. when she eventually got down from the bike, the bike man said in Yoruba “se Iwo ro boya ogbon ni?” Meaning “so you think you are wise?” She paid her transport fare without asking the man what he meant by what he said. You could have thought she did the right thing by not confronting the man because he was older than her; he should be in his forties but she shouldn’t have just placed her bag between her and the man. She should have done more than that. She should have told the man firmly to stop encroaching on her space. What if she wasn’t with her bag what would she have done? The man was trying to take advantage of her age and tap current from her (I hope you understand what I mean?) Please, stay with me I’m going somewhere.
Scenario 2:  A girl co-biked with a guy she doesn’t know (which is a very great mistake. You should never co-bike with an opposite sex) but she wasn’t seated in the middle of the two guys, she sat at their back( she was wise in that aspect). During the ride she noticed a hand on her lap and the hand was not just on her lap, the hand was rubbing her lap. Immediately she noticed, she slapped the hand which was the hand of the guy seated at her front. The guy couldn’t say anything because he knew what he was doing was wrong and the girl got down from the bike happy that she defended herself and probably taught the guy a lesson never to try to take advantage of any other girl. I hope you are getting my point? Please, stay with me i’m still ‘biking’ somewhere.
Scenario 3:  A girl was alone in the shop where she was an apprentice early in the morning of a public holiday. Being a public holiday, the environment was quiet because people weren’t around. A married man who was a friend to her boss and who she has always greeted and respected in previous times came into the shop and sat beside her. At first she thought he came to pick something from their shop but when he started talking to her and place his hand on her lap she then noticed that has was there for another purpose ( please note that she wasn’t dressed in a provocative way). She sat well so his hand was no longer on her lap but she didn’t say anything to confront the man about his action. He then went ahead to pat her cheek. In her mind she was looking for a means of escape but the man was sitted on bench that was on her way. It was as if the alarm on her head went off. She couldn’t say or do anything. Finally her boss came to her rescue but didn’t realize what was happening. The girl was mad with herself because she didn’t stand up for herself and that has probably sent a wrong message to the man.

My question is can you imagine what could have happened to her if her boss didn’t come at the right time? She could have been  RAPED!

Scenario 4: Lastly, a girl was sitted beside the driver’s sit and she was struggling to open the door so she could get down from the vehicle. The man wanted to help her and he stretched his hand across her chest to help her open the door and in the process pressed her breast. You could think it was a mistake but I think if it was, he could have said sorry and not pretend as if nothing happened. If he had said sorry the girl would have felt dignified and not been taken advantage of. She should have told the man firmly to please remove his hand.
I hope you’ve gotten the meaning of sexual harassment from the scenarios I gave and that you’ve learned one lesson or the other from them? One thing I’ve come to learn about sexual harassment is that if it isn’t properly handled it can go out of hand and lead into something you didn’t plan for. I’ve also notice that most cases of rape didn’t just happen because the victim dressed in a provocative way but because prior to that time, the victim was harassed by the rapist and did nothing about it.
Sexual harassment can be as minute as someone making lewd remarks about any part of your body most especially about the sensitive part of your body. One of my goals for writing this is to see girls grow in a safe environment where they can be free to be themselves and not taken advantage of.

So I would say, to avoid been sexually harassed take note of the following:

1. Watch what you wear because the way you are dressed is the way you would be addressed.
2. Speak up and stand up for yourself when you are sexually harassed. Being a girl doesn’t mean you can’t stand up for yourself. Being submissive isn’t equal to not been able to stand up for yourself. Learn to say NO and mean it. Learn to look the harasser  in the eye when talking to him; this will make him know that you are not scared of him. It isn’t disrespectful, it is fighting for yourself.
3.  If you can take a self defense class please do. It will help you to be able to fight physically if the need arises to protect yourself against anyone who wants to harm you. Even the Bible says the children of the dark are wiser than the children of light. It is high time we wise up and do everything we can to protect ourselves from been harmed and let God do His. But please note that this is not an excuse for you to become violent. It is just a means of defending yourself when you feel that you are in danger.
4. Mentally prepare yourself for what you will do or say if you are sexually harassed. It will help you if you aren’t naturally the confronting type. It doesn’t mean that you are expecting anything evil to happen to you it just means that you are preparing yourself for how you will handle it if it happens so you won’t be caught unawares.
5. Above all, let God guide you and keep you. Follow the leading of his spirit that dwells within you as his child. God loves you and want you to live a safe life without fear in this crooked and perverse world.

I love you but not as much as God does!