In my tween years and early teenage years I experienced a lot of girl drama issues that lead to me breaking down emotionally. Some days I found it hard to concentrate in class and other days I dread seeing the girls involved in the “drama”. The good news is that over the years I’ve learned how to handle issues in my friendships.
Girl drama occurs everywhere the female folks are. It basically occurs when there is a misunderstanding between you and your girlfriends and it seems impossible for you to resolve your differences. The truth is that no two persons are the same and misunderstanding in our friendships cannot be avoided but how you handle it as a god girl is what matters. You either choose love, forgiveness, truth and peace or You choose hatred, unforgiveness, gossip, lies and bitterness. The choice is yours. You cannot determine how others act or react but you can choose how you act. So, without further ado below are tips on how you can avoid and handle girl drama.
1. Avoid gossip: Gossip most times does not look like it and sometimes it can seem interesting and inviting but the end result is bitter and painful. Learn to excuse yourself from the company of those that gossip. Better still, make sure your closest friends know you do not support gossip. Avoid aimless chatting or texting on phone. Make sure you do not discuss other peoples issue. if you have an issue with an individual, tell him or her yourself and if you cannot, pray for the person “alone”. Mind my choice of words. I said “alone”. Pray for the person alone and not in the company of someone else. Praying about an individual’s issue with a friend without the permission of the person with the issue can still be called gossip. Be wise and stay away from gossip.
“He who goes about as a gossip reveals secrets; Therefore do not associate with a gossip [who talks freely or flatters].”
_ Proverbs 20:19 AMP
2. Choose to forgive: No two individuals are the same which means there would be reasons for you to be offended by a person’s words or actions. Your choice to forgive is what you do for yourself and not necessarily because of the offender. Forgiveness liberates you. Do whatever it takes to let go of the hurt. Remember, a line in the Lord’s prayer says “forgive us this day as we forgive those who trespass against us”. This means God would only forgive you your sins when you forgive those that have wronged you. Pray and cry it out if need be, just ensure you do whatever it takes for you to choose forgiveness.
“Forgive us the wrongs we have done as we ourselves release forgiveness to those who have wronged us.” _Matthew 6:12 TPT
3. Choose Peace: Some people enjoy drama because they do not like peace. God girls like you are called to be peace makers and we live by a different rule.
“Do everything possible on your part to live in peace with everybody.”
_Romans 12:18 GNT
It’s true that some people can be difficult to live with and relate to but you can choose to be the mature one who chooses peace. This sets you apart as a child of God.
“Blessed [inwardly peaceful, spiritually secure, worthy of respect] are the gentle [the kind-hearted, the sweet-spirited, the self-controlled], for they will inherit the earth. “Blessed [spiritually calm with life-joy in God’s favor] are the makers and maintainers of peace, for they will [express His character and] be called the sons of God.
Matthew 5:5,9 AMP
Choosing to live in peace does not mean you are stupid but rather that you trust God to vindicate you whenever you are wronged.
“Don’t ever say, “I’m going to get even with them if it’s the last thing I do!” Wrap God’s grace around your heart and he will be the one to vindicate you.” _Proverbs 20:22 TPT
4. Choose to stay away from toxic relationships: This is very key because some of the friendships that involve “drama” are not necessarily godly. Ask yourself certain questions like: does this girl share the same value as I? Does she encourage me in my walk with Jesus? Does she add value to me? If your answer is no to any of these questions I think you have to reevaluate your friendship with the person in question. Friendship is a choice and you have to make a wise one. Do not choose a friend because of her popularity in school, her socioeconomic status or her physical beauty but because of her love for Jesus and her love for you. Not everyone should be in your inner circle. Any friend who constantly tears you down with her words or actions is not worth it. Learn to set clear boundaries and stay away from toxic friendships.
I would love to hear from you. Have you ever been involved in a girl drama? If yes, how did you handle it?