Are you a Lady Wisdom or a Madame Whore?

Every woman in the world not withstanding their nationality, race or ethnicity can be categorized into two groups. The first being the “Lady wisdom category” and the second being the “Madame Whore category.” These two women have marks that makes it easy to identify them. The Bible in Song of Solomon 8:9 pictured Lady Wisdom as a wall and madame Whore as a door.
Lady Wisdom (a wall) is a woman whose life is built on convictions and truth from God’s word. She is firm and unyielding to the wrong kinds of advances from men while Madame whore ( a door) is a woman whose life is not built on biblical convictions, she is vulnerable to temptation and may well become a temptress herself. She is like a door that can be easily swayed. She is loose and has turned aside from a life of purity and integrity.
We live in a world where a lot of people including Christians have lost their sense of morality; a world where words like modest, discreet, and chaste are no longer popular and even when they are used they are usually frowned at. It is important for us as Christian women never to forget that we belong to a Kingdom with standards and the genuine nature of our identity is in we keeping those standards. We belong to a kingdom that cannot be moved and whose builder and maker is God it is therefore important for us to represent that kingdom well.
Proverbs 7 describes in details the marks of Madame Whore and it is important that as you read through it you ask God if any of the characteristics of this woman describes you?

“My son, keep my words, And treasure my commands within you. Keep my commands and live, And my law as the apple of your eye. Bind them on your fingers; Write them on the tablet of your heart. Say to wisdom, “You are my sister,” And call understanding your nearest kin, That they may keep you from the immoral woman, From the seductress who flatters with her words.

For at the window of my house I looked through my lattice, And saw among the simple, I perceived among the youths, A young man devoid of understanding, Passing along the street near her corner; And he took the path to her house In the twilight, in the evening, In the black and dark night. And there a woman met him, With the attire of a harlot, and a crafty heart.

She was loud and rebellious, Her feet would not stay at home. At times she was outside, at times in the open square, Lurking at every corner. So she caught him and kissed him; With an impudent face she said to him: “ I have peace offerings with me; Today I have paid my vows. So I came out to meet you, Diligently to seek your face, And I have found you. I have spread my bed with tapestry, Colored coverings of Egyptian linen.
I have perfumed my bed With myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon. Come, let us take our fill of love until morning; Let us delight ourselves with love. For my husband is not at home; He has gone on a long journey; He has taken a bag of money with him, And will come home on the appointed day.”

I have perfumed my bed With myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon. Come, let us take our fill of love until morning; Let us delight ourselves with love. For my husband is not at home; He has gone on a long journey; He has taken a bag of money with him, And will come home on the appointed day.” With her enticing speech she caused him to yield, With her flattering lips she seduced him. Immediately he went after her, as an ox goes to the slaughter, Or as a fool to the correction of the stocks, Till an arrow struck his liver. As a bird hastens to the snare, He did not know it would cost his life. Now therefore, listen to me, my children; Pay attention to the words of my mouth: Do not let your heart turn aside to her ways, Do not stray into her paths; For she has cast down many wounded, And all who were slain by her were strong men. Her house is the way to hell, Descending to the chambers of death.” Proverbs 7:1-‬27 NKJV

Now that you’ve carefully read through the passage I want you to take note of the marks of this woman. They are:

1. She flatters with her words(Vs 5). This is in contrast to Lady Wisdom in Proverbs 31:21 who “opens her mouth with wisdom and on her tongue is the law of kindness.” Are you the kind of woman that is known to tell the truth in love or do you flatter with your words? Do you speak words that are seasoned with salt and grace (Col 4:6)? Or does unwholesome words come out of your mouth?

2. She places herself in places, situations, and relationships where the potential for wrong doing exists (VS 7-9). The importance of staying away from people, places and situations where the natural instinct would be to do something wrong cannot be over emphasized. Do you stay away from friends, places and situations that will make you to become more vulnerable to temptation and sin? Do you abstain from every form of evil(1 Thes 5:22) or do you entertain them?

3. She is not satisfied with the mate God has provided and has expectations and longings that her husband is not fulfilling ( Vs 19-20). Rather than looking to God to fulfill the deepest needs and longings of her heart, she focuses on what she does not have and looks to others to meet those needs. Do you often look to friends to meet the longings of your heart or do you go to God and trust Him to satisfy you with His love. Single Woman, it is important for you to note that “your maker is your husband (Ish 54:5)” and you have Him to answer too. Being single is not a good enough excuse to live a reckless life. Rather than pouring your love, attention and devotion upon a man or upon searching for a man instead invest your heart, energy and efforts in your relationship with God and watch Him quiet you with His love. Be content with the season of life you are in and let Him bring the right man into your life at the right time. Be still!

4. She is immodest in her dressing ( Vs 10). Modest dress is a mark of a wise godly woman unlike Madame Whore who is dressed “with the attire of an harlot” (the outward manifestation, and having “a crafty heart” (the inward heart that produces the outward manifestation). Our countenance, clothing choices, and behaviour reflect what is on our heart. Your clothing choice says a lot about you and about the value you place on yourself. The heart invariably affects the outward appearance. That is why Madame whore’s dress and her heart are addressed in the same verse. Suggestive, seductive clothing is one of the traps she uses to lure the young man. “And a crafty heart… “ Madame Whore is subtle of heart. This speaks of being crafty in her intent. She is wily and has hidden motives. She has set out to ensnare this young man. Have you ever considered the effect your clothing choice has on the men around you? I am sure you do not want to be the object of lust for the men in your life and neither do you want a man pursuing you for your body. You are royalty, dress like one!

5. She has a “loud” and “rebellious” Spirit(Vs 11). Her demeanor is contrast to that of a gentle and a quiet spirit that is priceless to God( 1 Peter 3:4). She does not exercise restraint or self-control. She is stormy and demanding. Not only is she loud, she is rebellious or stubborn. She is headstrong and defiant against God’s law and against the obligation of morality. Do you rebel against the authority figures God has placed in your life to guide you and help you to make the right decisions? Can you be described as a woman with a gentle and quiet Spirit or one with a loud and rebellious Spirit?

6. She is a gadabout. Her feet would not stay at home(vs 11b-12). In contrast to the wise woman, Madame Whore is not content to be satisfied with where God has put her.

“The greatest Spiritual, moral and emotional protection a woman will ever experience is found when she is content to stay within her God -appointed sphere. This does not mean that she never leaves her house, but rather that her heart is rooted in her home and that she puts her family’s needs above all other interests and pursuits.” _Nancy Leigh De Moss.

Is your family one of your top priorities or does other people come first in your life? Do you consider home making a calling and privilege or something to whine about and shy away from?

7. She is aggressive in her relationship with men ( Vs 13-14). She throws herself on this man-physically and verbally. She is bold in her greeting. She evidences the lack of discretion and restraints. Few women today do not have any concept of what’s wrong with being the initiator. Why shouldn’t girls call boys? Why shouldn’t they ask young men out for dates? Casually, carelessly throwing your arms around men and giving them full frontal hugs is inappropriate. Such behaviour may not have immoral intent, but it is foolish. At best, it pulls down appropriate restraints that ought to exist between men and women; at worst, it can lead to grave sins against God. How do you act around men? Is it with dignity or are you a typical flirt?

8. The foolish woman is indiscreet(Vs 16-17). She talks freely about intimate subjects that should be reserved for conservation with her husband. There are things you don’t talk about in mixed company. You don’t refer to parts of your body in a conversation with a man no matter how close you two are and neither is it proper for you to tell him that you are on your period or that you are having menstrual cramps. He is a man and not one of your girlfriends. Please be wise!

9. She does not understand the nature of true love (Vs 18). True love is giving, not getting. Love can always wait to give, but lust can never wait to get. She is a taker rather than a giver. She seeks immediate gratification, in spite of the fact that her delights of this forbidden fruit will last only until morning. She fails to think about the long-term consequences of her choices, and as a result. She sets herself and others up for moral failure. She is willing to sacrifice her own marriage and integrity, as well as the well-being and future of others, in order to experience a brief taste of the fruit of illicit love. Where have you gotten your definition of love from, the world or God’s word?

10. She lives life without the consciousness of God as “a God who sees”_ El Rio ( Vs 19-20). She thinks no one will know about her secret little sin. How we need to cultivate the fear of the Lord- that constant conscious sense that we are always under God’s watchful eyes whether we are alone or with others. Do you live your life under the reverential fear of God?

11. She is the instrument of a strong man’s undoing ( Vs 26-27). Even men who are spiritually mature can be brought down-controlled, wounded and destroyed by a foolish woman.

The consequences of failing to be a wise woman is deadly. When we are tempted by the immediate pleasures of speaking too freely, letting our emotions and our tongues run wild, or letting our behaviour become careless and unrestrained, we need to consider the long-range consequences of our choices.
Our calling as godly wise women is to be a cheer leader, to lift up the hands of the men God has placed in our lives and to pray for them. Yes, they have weakness, as do we; but we need to encourage them, pray and trust God to make them mighty men of God. Please be a Lady wisdom and not a Madam Whore. I love you but not as much as Christ does!


I do not know if you’ve ever met someone with a heart condition? Your encounter with such a person will most likely cause you to feel sympathy for them and gratitude for your own heart. The truth is we all have a heart condition; it might not just be one that affects our physical heart but we all have one all the same. It comes in different forms like anger, bitterness, lies, immoral thoughts and the little things that poisons our heart. Your heart is like a vineyard or a garden worth guarding and watching over. It is also like a treasure chest that should only hold “things that are true, noble, right, pure, lovely and honourable (Philippians 4:8 GNT).”

Often times a lot of us do not watch over our heart and we live with the consequences of not doing so. There are some scriptures that explains this truth:

a. Catch the foxes, the little foxes, before they ruin our vineyard in bloom. Song of Songs 2:15 GNT

b. Be careful how you think; your life is shaped by your thoughts. Never say anything that isn’t true. Have nothing to do with lies and misleading words. Look straight ahead with honest confidence; don’t hang your head in shame. Proverbs 4:23‭-‬25 GNT

c. For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.Proverbs 23:7a NKJV

d. A good person brings good things out of a treasure of good things; a bad person brings bad things out of a treasure of bad things. “You can be sure that on the Judgment Day you will have to give account of every useless word you have ever spoken. Your words will be used to judge you—to declare you either innocent or guilty.”
Matthew 12:35‭-‬37 GNT

e. But the things that come out of the mouth come from the heart, and these are the things that make you ritually unclean. For from your heart come the evil ideas which lead you to kill, commit adultery, and do other immoral things; to rob, lie, and slander others. These are the things that make you unclean. But to eat without washing your hands as they say you should—this doesn’t make you unclean.”
Matthew 15:18‭-‬20 GNT

f. I have rejected him, because I do not judge as people judge. They look at the outward appearance, but I look at the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7b GNT

I shared those scriptures with you so you can understand the fact that “The condition of your heart matters.”

The same way you are careful to eat healthy because of your physical heart should be the same way you pay attention to the content of your heart which is basically your thoughts. You do this because you know that “You become what you think (Proverbs 23:7a, Proverbs 4:23)”

If I should ask what is your heart like lately? What would your response be?
* Is a root of bitterness springing up from the soil of your heart?
* Is there anger in there?
* Is your heart filled with lies or the truth (the word of God)?
* Is your heart troubled or at rest in God?
* Have you being unnecessarily touchy lately?
Do you know your thoughts can actually influence your mood? Do you need to go for a heart check?

“Search me, O God, and know my heart; Try me, and know my anxieties; and see if there is any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting? (Psalm 139: 23-24 NKJV).”

We all have to go to the feet of the Master for a regular heart check because the heart of a man is desperately wicked and only the word of God revealed by His Spirit can mirror the content of our heart to us.
The next time you sense your heart leading you down a path you know better than to tread, do what 2 Corinthians 10:5 says “we pull down every proud obstacle that is raised against the knowledge of God; we take every thought captive and make it obey Christ.”
You have to catch those foxes before they ruin your garden (your heart).

You do this by:

1. Rebuking such thoughts and by replacing them immediately with the truth of God’s word- something true, noble, right, pure, lovely and honourable (Philippians 4:8 GNT).

2. Filling your mind with God’s word; reading it, praying it and living it.

3. Standing guard against anything that is not in line with Philippians 4:8; you stop it from getting into your heart.

These might require you to be selective with the kind of music you listen too, movies you see and the novels you read. You do all these because you know that the health of your heart is worth fighting for.

You have an enemy that does not want you to do things God’s way. A very real spiritual war began in your life the day you surrendered your life to Jesus; your heart became a battlefield. He will seek to pull you back into your old ways again, well, your destruction is just collateral damage—it’s Jesus he is after.

So, do not be ignorant of the schemes of the enemy. Be intentional about guarding your heart. Remember, if you lose the battle in your mind, you’ve lost the battle all together.

I would love to hear from you in the comment below:
– What are the practical things you do in order to guard your heart daily?

– How were you able to overcome a heart issue you struggled with in the past?

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