Are you finding it hard to rest?

If there is any lesson I learned from the busy seasons of my life it would be that “Rest would not always come to me in a familiar way. And often times it seems impossible for me to create time for it.But I have learned to pursue it and also to rest from the inside out.”

As physical rest is to your physical health so also is your time with God to your spiritual health. You can only experience real rest when you prioritize your time with God.

“For the Lord God, the Holy One of Israel has said this, “In returning (to Me) and rest you shall be saved in quietness and confident trust is your strength.” But you were not willing_ Ish 30:15 (AMP)

I have noticed with me that when my life gets busy the first thing that suffers is my time with God and it shouldn’t be. You and I can only do all we have to do daily by depending on God.

“These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.”

Matthew 6:32‭-‬33 NLT

You show that you depend on Him by giving Him the best portion of your day. And He in turn blesses the portion you have left. You have to make an habit of spending time with God daily. You can achieve this by doing the following:

1. Pick the time and place: A lot of people prefer to have their quiet time in the morning because it sets the right course for their day. But there is no rule that says you must have it in the morning. If you are not a morning person just pick a time that is suitable for your lifestyle. The only “wrong” time for having your time with God would be “no” time.

After you’ve successfully picked a time, it is important that you pick a place. Remember,you are trying to make an habit out of this. Having a specific place where you meet with God helps you to be consistent. This place can change from time to time depending on your mood. For now, my bed is my spot but there are days I make use of the table and chair in my room so I wouldn’t fall asleep. So pick a spot that would work best for you. It should be a place where you would have privacy.

2. Gather all your gears and get rid of distractions: For me an easy to read version of the Bible, my Bible concordance, a cute journal, pens, highlighters, sticky notes and a devotional book are my must have for my quiet time. So, decide what you will need and see that it’s in your spot. Gathering all your gears in a spot will help you to concentrate better since you wouldn’t have the excuse to stand up until you are done.
It’s important that you put your phone on airplane mode if you must have it with you so you wouldn’t be distracted by it.

3. Avoid rushing through your devotion: I know because you feel you do not have enough time, there is every tendency for you to want to rush through your devotion. Rushing through it is a bad idea because it will leave you feeling anxious. So take your time and Linger! It is in your time with God that you exchange your weariness for His strength, your weakness for His power, your burdens for His freedom and your frustration for His peace. So dear friend, learn to linger in His presence.

“As a camel kneels before his master to have him remove his burden so kneel and let the Master take your burden.” _ Corrie ten Boom.

“The Proverbs 31 woman achieved the ideal balance of ‘a soul at rest’ and ‘a body in motion.’ Her soul is at rest in God.” _ Donna Partow (emphasis mine)

4. Keep little things with you that can help you remember God through out your day:
Use a scripture verse as your phone or laptop screen saver. This helps you to memorize scriptures and also think about the truth it offers as you go through your day.
You can also have a playlist of worship songs that you can listen to as you get other things done. It helps you to relax and have your mind fixed on the goodness of God.
Write your prayers on a sticky note or flash card and keep it inside your purse or planner. You can pull it out as you wait on a long queue. This reminds you to talk to God all through the day.
It is also good for you to have e-books of your favourite Christian authors on your phone. You can read any one of them in the Bus on your way to school or work. You can get more reading done by doing so. Plus it’s a good alternative for scrolling aimlessly through social media.

You see, it’s all about how you choose to use your time.

“Therefore see that you walk carefully [living life with honor, purpose, and courage; shunning those who tolerate and enable evil], not as the unwise, but as wise [sensible, intelligent, discerning people], making the very most of your time [on earth, recognizing and taking advantage of each opportunity and using it with wisdom and diligence], because the days are [filled with] evil.”


Choose to rest from the inside out!

“Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.”

Matthew 11:28‭-‬30 MSG

Let’s chat,

Mention one person that keeps you accountable to spending regular time with God?


One relationship that would leave a lasting effect on your life as a female is your relationship with your mum. This effect can either be a positive or negative one depending on how healthy your relationship with her is.
It’s God’s intention for us to be taught by the godly older women He has placed in our lives. Titus 2:3-5 states this mandate.

“Similarly, teach the older women to live in a way that honors God. They must not slander others or be heavy drinkers. Instead, they should teach others what is good. These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.
Titus 2:3‭-‬5 NLT”

It’s disheartening that even though our biological mothers are solely responsible for teaching us the things listed in Titus 2:3-5 a lot of them are not doing that.

The good news is that Psalm 68:6a talks about God setting the solitary in families. And the beautiful thing about the Body of Christ is that you have the privilege of having adopted family members. So although the responsibility of fulfilling the mandate in Titus 2:3-5 should naturally lie on our biological mother, God has provided a new way of fulfilling that mandate. And that is through the godly Older women He brings into our lives. They can come in form of a teacher in your school, a big aunty or sister from your church or your neighbourhood, a godly role model e.t.c.

I can remember growing up, I had the desire to have a close and healthy relationship with my mum like some of my friends had with their mums. But even though things didn’t turn out the way I wished they would, God sent godly women to me at various seasons of my life.
One of them came into my life at age ten. She shared the gospel with me and I am forever grateful for the role she played in my coming to Christ and in how I lived my preteen years and teenage years.

My desire for you is to see you develop close and healthy relationship with the godly older women God would bring into your life; women that have gone ahead of you in this thing called life and can teach you from the wealth of their wisdom. So you wouldn’t have to experience some of the heartache they’ve experienced.

I know firsthand from experience the value in having a godly older woman as part of your support system and I want you to prayerfully seek for one of such women in your church and submit to them. Give them the right to speak truth into your life and let them know you want them to walk the path of life with you. I’m sure they would gladly do this for you.

Apart from having an older woman that can do life with you. There are godly and wise older women you might never get the opportunity to sit with and have them answer your questions but they’ve taken their time to document their experience in their books. It is wise for you and I to take advantage of our access to those books by buying and reading them. I’ve learned and I’m still learning from reading the books of women like Elizabeth George, Sally Clarkson, Chrystal Evans Hurst, Priscilla Shirer, Babara Hughes and Neigh Leigh Demoss. They are wise women whose teachings I can vouch for. Do yourself the favour of getting their books and glean from their wealth of wisdom. If you are wondering which of their books you should purchase you can check my blog post on

Lastly, I want to encourage you to take out time today to celebrate your mum or any other older woman that has been investing in you. Send her a note of appreciation. And let her know she means a lot to you.

*Do you have a mentor?
* If you were asked to state one lesson you’ve learned from her what would your answer be?
* What is your favourite activity to do with her?

I would love to hear from you.