ADULTING 104: BE MEDIA- WISE

There are different reasons why we engage in the use of media. As a teenager, I wanted to get in tune with social media just because my friends in school were into it. After Assembly, each one of them would chat away about how exciting their conversation on “2go” was from the previous night. We were just ordinary teenagers that had no better understanding of what social media can be used for other than chatting with boyfriends on 2go. Sometimes I felt bad because I didn’t even know what 2go looked like while other times I just follow up with the gist or come up with the latest episode of ‘super story’ I had watched so as not to feel left out. I had no access to a browsing phone and frankly, I’d rather watch Wrestlesomania so I could practice John Ceena’s “YOU CAN’T SEE ME” with my brother (being the only girl child), do home works, read story books, forcefully stay in the kitchen with Mom and grumpily run errands for my brothers. (LOL) I am born again now, I love to stay in the kitchen sef winks. Upon my realization of God’s love for me, I started to place value on things that count. I realized that social media wasn’t just for chats with boyfriends and friends but for Godly communication that renews the mind.

As Jesus’ girls, we have to be conscious of the things we see because the things we see becomes the thoughts in our hearts and our thoughts are what we tend to say and do. Just like how friends either make or mar us, so does social media. So we have to be media-wise!

How do you help yourselves to be media-wise?

Do not conform to the pattern of this world (Romans 12:2)
The Holy book says “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is… (NIV)”

It is not right for you to adjust yourself to the styles and system of this world. We are just in the world, we are not of the world. Social media is mistaken to be for the secular folks only but you can take it back for your Kingdom where you really belong; the Kingdom of God! You can constantly express God’s love through social media platforms without being contaminated. Matthew 10:16 (NKJV) “Behold, I send you out as sheep in the midst of wolves, therefore be wise as serpents and harmless as doves.”

Be careful what you watch, read and listen to
Let the content you watch, read or listen to be edifying. Not one that will shake your faith, affect your state of mind or reduce your self esteem. Consciously grow yourself with the things that you see online, whether scripture related, life teachings, relationship sites, finance and what have you. Know the sites and chat rooms you enter, if it disturbs your peace, please darling leave!
1 Corinthians 10:23 “I have the right to do anything, you say – but not everything is beneficial. I have the right to do anything-but not everything is constructive. (NIV)”

Watch what you push out – 1 Corinthians 8:9
Think about the life that Jesus would lead if he was in our time, that’s how He expects you to live…even on social media. You can baptize your audience with the love of God that you have received. Let your content renew their minds; let it leave them wanting more. If you are uploading pictures, let it carry texts showing God’s faithfulness instead of “Ama slay mama, giving them hot hot” so that guys will not be carried away with the hotness of your physical body but by the hotness of Jesus in you. 1 Corinthians 10:24. Of course a lot of these things are in context but if your context is driven by the world, then I’m afraid you’re only propagating their gospel.

Be time conscious- Ecclesiastes 3:1
Do not spend all your day on social media platforms. Spare time to build up other important aspects of your life. Read books, listen to good songs, and watch good movies, pray, study, reach out to friends, do chores, learn new things and be happy!

Surround yourself with Godly contacts – Proverbs 27:17 (NIV)
“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another”.

Your friends matter!

Dispel fears
Nothing should stop you from using the social media platforms in reaching out to others.
2 Timothy 1:7

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Finally darling, let your testimony be that “…from infancy I have known the Holy scriptures which has made me wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus”
2 Timothy 3:15 (NIV)

I LOVE YOU ALL!

So tell me;
• How do you publicize God on social media?

• How do you manage your time when there is more than enough data on your phone?

MEET THE AUTHOR

Temiloluwa Olaniyan is a graduate of Linguistics and Nigerian languages from the prestigious University of Ilorin. She has a passion for children and teenagers and is graced to light up Jesus in the hearts of the younger generation. She loves talking, chatting and reaching out to people. She derives inspiration from songs of worship and she’s committed to a life of service to God.

ADULTING 103: SElF-CARE.

“Anything done to the extreme is an error” – Apostle Joshua Selman

“Do not be excessively righteous and do not be overly wise.Why should you ruin yourself?” Ecclesiastes 7:16

There is this popular saying that “too much of everything is bad”, well I will like to rephrase it based on the above scripture by saying: Inbalance can ruin your life.

As young believers emphasis have always been laid on how important it is for us to build our spiritual life, but I have come to see how many who stared well for God as teenagers end up in ruins even before they got to 35, Why? Because we focus so much on an aspect of our lives ingnoring the rest and those other parts we ignore(which are important) the enemy uses against us later in life.

Some engage in Spiritual activities out of zeal and love for God and as time goes on they get “drained” because they don’t know what it means to rest in God, hmm, yes! Rest in God. One thing I have learnt to practice from the father Himself is “Sabbath”

“And on the seventh day God ended His work which He had done, and He rested on the seventh day from all His work which He had done.”Genesis 2:2

If God needed rest after creating the world we need it too. After so much activities (school, even church activities ) it is important that we learn how to withdraw from the crowd to practice “sabbath”. It can be in form of a retreat for days or just a timeout after a busy day to be with God. Some of us are so busy from morning till night so much so that even in our heads we keep calculating, thinking, chatting, talking that we don’t find that time out to renew our strength from the father. Aside our early morning quiet time It is important to know when you have to stop everything around you to practice “spiritual sabbath”. Sometimes I chose a day or even 3days (it depends) where I sit at home, no television, no going out, no chatting just to “rest in God” and renew strength

Some find it difficult to blend the circular world(school, friends, social activities) with their spiritual lives and in the process tilt too much to the circular and drift away from the spiritual or better still tilt too much towards the spiritual, ignoring their health.

The truth is man is a tripitite being i.e man isn’t just a SPIRIT but he has a SOUL too and lives in a BODY, understanding this will help us know how to take care of ourselves.

CARE FOR YOUR SPIRIT

“But there is a spirit in man, And the breath of the Almighty gives him understanding.”
-Job 32:8

Yes! you have a spirit, that is why you can communicate with the father(God) who is also a spirit.

“God is a Spirit: and they that worship him must worship him in spirit and in truth.”
-John 4:24 KJV

As physical things are to the physical so are Spiritual things to the spiritual.

“All of them ate the same spiritual food,”
-1corinthians 10:3

There is indeed a food the spirit man should feed on to grow, why we get drained as we go on our Christian journey is because we starve the spirit man of “the right food”

“But He answered and said, “It is written, ‘Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceeds from the mouth of God.”
-Mathew 4:4

Number one food you should feed on is the WORD OF GOD, ever since I received Christ into my life as my personal Lord and Savior, I intentionally go to the word to receive light, this has helped me per time when I don’t know what to do. Note that I said “intentionally” not “casually”. You are to read, study, and confess His word. some people don’t see how important it is since they go to church and hear sermons or attend Christian programs(which is very good) but taking time out for yourself to hear from God through his word will strengthen your spirit man.

Another food your Spirit need is; PRAYER, when we pray we develop “praying power”. Prayer opens our spirit man to receive from God. When you do this consistently communication with God becomes easy. The Bible says we should pray “without ceasing”, that is how much we need to pray.

“PRAYING ALWAYS with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints;”
Ephesians 6:18 KJV

Praying always…

In the spirit and in understanding, pray! Pray! Always!

CARE FOR YOUR SOUL
“And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.”
-Romans 12:1

The soul includes the man’s intellect,
(mind, will and emotions) where affections toward other human beings or objects are generated. All these are part of the man himself; they form the personality of man.

When we spend time feeding on television and other entertainment materials which message is contrary to God’s Word, we feed our soul with doubt, anger, fear, violence, foul languages and lust and by doing that we open a door for the enemy to access our mind. You might not be conscious of this but as time goes on it builds a stronghold in the mind making it difficult for the Holyspirit to find expression in you.

“Keep your heart with all diligence, For out of it spring the issues of life.” -Proverbs4:23

Learn to guard the door of your heart from devices the enemy uses to gain entrance into our soul. This is one of the reasons why so many battle with anxiety, depression and then suicide because the enemy already has a strong hold in their mind. If you struggle with any of these, aside praying and allowing the Holyspirit help you renew your mind through His word, please seek godly counsel. Talk to an adult or someone you can trust about it, may God grant us grace in Jesus name. Amen.

CARE FOR YOUR BODY

“Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth.”

-3 John 1:2 KJV

You cannot carry out God’s work on the earth effectively if you neglect your body. The Holyghost needs the body to carry out spiritual activities. The body doesn’t run on the Holyghost. Even Jesus was tired and slept in the boat.

So far we have learnt that it is important to discern when we need spiritual rest, it is also important to know when we need to shut down physical activities so our bodies can rest. It is not unrighteousness to be tired physically.

Eating the right food like fruits (not junk) and vegetables can help your body. I am a mango lover and sometimes apples and water melon depending on my mood…lol. Too much junk is harmful to our bodies. Taking a close look at the old testament I found out all the things they were not allowed to eat and things God allowed them to eat was for their own good,God wanted them to be in health. Well now we know the nutritional content of these foods and how to balance eating them.

“Why do you spend your money on junk food, your hard-earned cash on cotton candy? Listen to me, listen well: Eat only the best, fill yourself with only the finest.”
-Isaiah 55:2 MSG.

Eat only the best fill yourself with only the finest my friend,

In conclusion, if you do not take care of yourself nobody would. Note that area of your life that needs to be worked on and work on it.

I would love to hear from you in the comment box below.

-Is it your spirit that needs food? And how do you plan to feed it?

-How can you shut the door of your soul against the Enemy?

-What can you do to keep your body in health?

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

I am Mariam Zabadi. I am a baker and an aspiring Chef. I love cooking – “i love beautiful food” if only the world can stop for a moment to see the art in food. Helping people achieve their God given vision and purpose is one of the things I find fulfilment in. I have a passion to see that women are raised with a deep sense of responsibility and godliness.

ADULTING 102: TIME MANAGEMENT

“Most people have no clue what they are doing with their time but still complain that they do not have enough.”-Grant Cardone

On this note I will be taking you through steps on how to manage and maximize time as a teenager.
In the beginning days of university, I was pretty much lax about managing my time. If I had a term test or exam coming up, I was known for waiting until the week of the exam to crack open my books to read the notes and materials. Actual studying started for me during cram sessions the day and night before the test or exam.
But as weird as this may sound, I was never like this as a teenager. My books were never covered in dust. My days were planned in my head and I always remembered all the tasks I had to finish up. I was the definition of a perfect teenage girl but how things changed in the University is what I really didn’t get. I wanted to understand what went wrong and then I realized that I became lazy and I started forgetting and neglecting my tasks easily. That had to change quickly because my University semester became less predictable, so I started researching on productivity, time management and time consciousness and BOOM!, I found what I was looking for. I don’t remember the article now, but it was basically on the use of Planners and journals and the use of the Pomodoro technique to study and so on.
And, believe it or not, this former procrastinator extraodinare soon became known as the most conscientious person.
How did I do it?
I focused on managing myself as much as on managing my time.
So let us switch it up a little bit.

Self-Management and Time Management
Why do we fail to manage our time? Why do we find it hard to get work done? Why do we also plan well and not execute?
The answer is simple; we focus more on time and less on ourselves. The fact is you cannot manage or control time, it is not possible. We all have same number of hours in a day. You cannot have extra time and you cannot reuse time that has been wasted. However, you can manage yourself.
You can do so by Self-discipline and by following a calculated and flexible schedule.

Self-Management Equals A Productive Life.
Set Clear Goals
Setting goals is great but having clear and realistic goals is better that way you are set to achieve them. When you are clear about what you want to do, how you want to go about it, what time you will do it, that way you are more able to achieve your goals or get things done.
A great hack is to have a planner. This planner can be digital or notebooks depending on which one works fine for you. A moleskin planner or a regular hard cover notebook works fine with me, it is easier for me to get things done when I write them down at the beginning of the week and the beginning of everyday to figure out when (time) I’m going to work on the tasks on my to-do-list.
Be realistic with your plans.

Set Deadlines…. They are Friendly
If you are someone who sets goal and doesn’t execute them, then set deadlines for yourself. If you have a big goal, break it down into smaller chunks and set deadlines for accomplishing each of the goals. Take your deadlines seriously and stick to them (if you need an accountability partner on this one, you can get you one). Before you say Jack, you’ll be getting things done with a great sense of momentum.

Say NO to Task Hopping
If your mind is all over the place and out of Focus, you are definitely not going to make good use of your time.
You will naturally feel overwhelmed when you are busy with a lot to do at the same time, your mind keeps racing through tasks. This can also be compounded by Social media, Emails, and so on which can make it difficult to stay focused on the task ahead or at hand. This is where the need to be disciplined comes into play by deciding to give your attention to just a single task during a set time
Turn off your background notification and data, put your phones away and do whatever you need to do to keep away from distractions.
Once you get used to focusing on a single task, you will work with ease and peace of mind.
What I do to keep myself focused some mornings is to Brain dump. I do this in my stream of consciousness notebook some mornings basically because my mind is always racing and stuff, so I want to be sure my head is empty of so many things. I write anything and everything in this notebook in no particular order and note, it doesn’t have to make sense.
Ps: self-management doesn’t work without – focus.

Self-Care Time
You need Energy. Yes I said it. After all, if you’ve gone through the process of determining the priorites and mapping out what you’re going to do and when you’re going to do what, but you have no energy when the task finally lands, you’re not going to make the best use of your time.
So, best advice; get some sleep (sufficient sleep), take breaks, eat a balanced diet and exercise. All of these will set you in the right mood and boost your concentration level. It will therefore help you to be productive and focused on your work.

Bonus Point
I mentioned using Pomodoro technique to study. Let us talk about it a little. I use the pomodoro technique to study and I have found much success using this technique. The way it works is, you do whatever task you want to do for 25 minutes straight, you then take a 5 minutes break and repeat the process. Note that it works well for me and this might not be for you. Maybe you study long hours non-stop and it doesn’t break you Great but some of us aren’t robots.
Some of you might have heard of this technique and if you haven’t, you’re most definitely welcome
You can download the app on your google play store or apple store or just use the timer on your phone or wrist watch

Do you have any other tips on self and time management?
How do you manage yourself?
Please leave a comment in the comment box below

ABOUT AUTHOR:

Oyinkansola Akinwunmi

I am a student, a writer looking to publish her works and an aspiring Developer. I am Tech and Health newbie and also a natural hair enthusiast.
I enjoy listening to audio books more than reading them but I’m learning to read books..I have a great passion for Nigeria and I strongly believe that I’m part of the Giants that will lead Nigeria Forward .

Adulting 101: Manage your emotions.

Life as a teenager can be hard and confusing. This is the stage of life where you begin to discover who you are. It is the stage where most of the decisions you make will have a life altering effect on you either negativity or positively. It is also the stage where you want to be treated like an adult even though you are not yet one. As a teenager I remember wishing for someone to show me how to do this thing called “life” in a practical and godly way and I will forever be grateful for the Older women in my life who did just that for me. What they did for me is what I hope this series on “Adulting” will do for you. I and a couple of my girlfriends want to show you how to navigate through life in a grace filled way. I am super excited about the time we will spend together in this series. Without much ado let’s get into the gist of today’s post.

Adulting is an informal term that is used to describe the practice of behaving in a way characteristic of a responsible adult, especially the accomplishment of mundane but necessary tasks (Online Oxford dictionary).
Being a teenager means you’ve entered into a stage of life called puberty; a stage where your hormones rage and your body begins to mature into an adult body capable of sexual reproduction. This stage is initiated by sex hormones- progesterone and estrogen in females and these hormones are responsible for the way you feel (i.e your emotions) most days. And these emotions express themselves in your body in different ways.

There are four weeks in a woman’s cycle. Twenty-eight days. In the first week, estrogen is released and our ovaries begin work on an egg cell. Estrogen also helps to release other marvelous things in our brains like dopamine and serotonin. We are happier. Our energy level is at its highest, this is our “You go, girl!” week. You know the week you decide to work on your new year resolution.

When the second week begins, things change. Estrogen levels off and then declines. We are still energetic, strong, and creative, just perhaps not so manic. Then ovulation occurs. Estrogen rises slightly, and progesterone increases. The egg travels down the fallopian tube in anticipation of a chance encounter. We are more peaceful inside and also perhaps more sexually assertive. But then our energy begins to lessen. Our emotions may become a bit conflicted.

In the third week, if no embryo was fertilized, our brains signal estrogen and progesterone to vacate the building. Emotions slide a little bit. Blood sugar levels slide too. We aren’t feeling our confident selves as easily. For a few days, the empty space created by the departing hormones leaves many women feeling empty as well. This is not the ideal time to throw a party or be around too many people.

Sometime during the fourth week, if we aren’t pregnant, both estrogen and progesterone leave, and so does the endometrial lining that formed in our uterus to prepare a cozy place for an embryo. Our period begins.

Chocolate is irresistible.This is when we may wish we could unplug the phone and unplug from our life for a couple of days. You know, just so you can hibernate and probably skip school. We want bed, a movie, popcorn, and nobody to talk to us unless they’re bringing us pillows.
These are the days to allow yourself to slow down, take an afternoon nap, journal. It is also helpful for you to pray on days like this. Ask Jesus to help you be kind to yourself and to others, to allow yourself to be tired and low and not feel guilty about it because this is a NORMAL part of being a woman.

Make it a practice to chart your cycle week by week. Make notes in your diary or planner or set a reminder on your phone calendar so you can know where you are. Look for the signs that indicate each week. This will help you to give yourself grace the next time you think your emotions are all over the place.

Learn to hold unto the truth about yourself and to act in a God honouring way no matter how you feel. Below are some of the truth you can remind yourself on difficult days:

* On days when you are angry remember that anger lies in the bosom of fools(Ecclesiastes 7:9 NKJV). And remember what the Bible says in Ephesians 4:26 NKJV “Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath” The issue is not that you are angry (because sometimes your reason for being angry may be genuine) but allowing your anger to cause you to sin is the issue.

* On days your mom, dad or any authority figure in your life does something that is annoying remember that “you are to honour your parents and those in authority over you (Ephesians 6:1-2, Romans 13:1-2,7).”

* Days when you have an assignment that is due tomorrow and there are still housechores with your name on them remember what PHILIPPIANS 4:13 AMP says. It says “I can do all things [which He has called me to do] through Him who strengthens and empowers me (to fulfill His purpose—I am self-sufficient in Christ’s sufficiency; I am ready for anything and equal to anything through Him who infuses me with inner strength and confident peace.)”

* On days when you feel unloved remember that “God loves you with an everlasting love(Jeremiah 31:3).”

* On days when you are tired of cleaning the mess made by your siblings or other members of your family remember to “be patient and treat them as you want them to treat you(Luke 6:31).”

* On days when your life seem meaningless to you and the future uncertain remember “God alone knows the plans He has for you, plans to bring you prosperity and not disaster, plans to bring about the future you hope for (Jeremiah 29:11).”

*On days when you are not so proud of your body and you don’t think you are beautiful remember that “you are fearfully and wonderfully made and God delights in your beauty(Psalm 139:14, Psalm 45:11).”

* On days when you feel incapable of doing the things God has called you too remember that “God has already given you all that pertains to life and godliness (2 Peter 1:3).”

* On days when you need a mood lifter remember that “God has given you the garment of Praise for the Spirit of heaviness (Isaiah 61:3).”

*On days when your friends betray you remember that “you have a friend in Jesus; one who sticks closer than a brother (Proverbs 18:24).”

The next time I will write to you, I will have a guest post on the topic “Adulting 102: Time Management.” but before then I would love to hear from you.
+ How do you handle Moodswing?
+ How will you describe your emotion on a daily basis? Is it like a rollercoaster, or is it fairly stable or stable?
+ What are the food or snack you crave for during the third or fourth week of your cycle?
Let the fun begin 😉

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