CONTROL YOUR ANGER.

     Are you prone to anger? Are you someone that says things you later end up regretting when you are angry or do you tend to hurt other people when you are angry? If your answer to these questions is YES then you need to learn to deal with your anger before it gets you in trouble.
       The pressures of life makes us as teenagers to be prone to anger but how we respond to anger is what makes the difference. If you are serious about dealing with it, these are practical  tips you should apply. The first thing you need to do is to know what triggers your anger. There are times you can be angry without necessarily knowing why. It might just be that you are depressed or have mood swings or bored and when someone asks you why you are angry your answer most of the time will be “I don’t know or nothing” it’s not as if you don’t know it’s just that you’ve not really taken your time to identify why you are angry. So  until you take your time to think about why you are angry you most likely will remain that way.
       Before you throw a tantrum or say things you shouldn’t say all in the name of being angry you can as well take very deep breaths and count one to ten. This will help you to calm down and think about what you want to do or say before you do something that you will regret.
       Channel your anger into something positive. You can write down how you feel at that point in time, you can dance, sing or do something that will take away your attention from your original source of anger. You will feel much better when you do this.
      You can also take a walk or run if you love running. Run or walk till you feel much better. It helps you to get away from your source of anger and it gives you time to think about why you are really angry and how you can handle it.
       Before you react in any way when you are angry try to think about how your action will affect the people around you. If you say that thing that comes to your mind how will that person feel or how will you feel if you were in that person shoes? If  you destroy that object how will you feel if you bought it with your money? PUT OTHER PEOPLE INTO CONSIDERATION BEFORE YOU ACT.
     Instead of reacting to a particular situation in anger why not consider communicating your problems to the person that annoyed you. At that point when the person did or say what you don’t like you might not feel like talking to the person but it is better you communicate how you feel to the person later when you’ve calmed down. Your ability to express how you feel to the person will reduce the tension between both of you if you do it well. When making a statement about what happened avoid the use of the words “I, ME,   etc” instead try and construct your statement in a way that you are putting both of you into consideration for example you can say  “I think we misunderstood each other.  Or the words we both said to each other was inappropriate” if you put the other person into consideration before saying anything the tendency for the person to get mad at you or to be defensive will reduce greatly. Also, remember that YOU DON’T NEED TO SHOUT TO GET YOUR MESSAGE ACROSS to people.
      Express how you feel about that particular situation to God. He will give you peace and help you handle it in a better way. Also, study aspects in the Bible that talks about how to react when you are angry. You will find a lot of them in the book of Proverbs like Proverbs 17:27 which says “A truly wise person uses few words; a person with understanding is even-tempered.” God’s advice is the best you can ever get. If you allow God to help you handle your anger you will be BETTER FOR IT AND NOT BITTER.
     In conclusion, anger doesn’t make you powerful than the people at the receiving end of your anger it only destroys your relationship with people. Build good relationships don’t destroy them with your anger.

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3 comments

  1. shinavicks · October 22, 2015

    good writeup

    Like

  2. aremotobi · October 26, 2015

    Hi Praise! Been following your blog for a while now. Nominated you for the dragon’s loyalty award. Check my last post for info. Good job!

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